Moment of Clarity

Through conversation with a few individuals, the questions and thoughts among them were different but all led to similar conclusions. They went something like this:

1. What in the hell am I doing here? Man, she is not even my type!
2. How did I get in this bed? Or better yet, how do I get out of this bed?!
3. Should I break up with her now or just wait a few more days?
4. I now know I have a really good girl at home.
5. I really love being with her.

The first and second thoughts listed above were very common among single men and those who weren't single. Since most men want to get their physical pleasure first, and then reflect about their current situation; it is almost not possible for these two thoughts to not cross their mind after they have sex. Just to make it clear; the questions do not arise due to any guilty feeling that one may be experiencing! On that note, we don't really want to cuddle, hold you, and talk about our potential future together; we want to get out of there as fast as possible. I mean, did you really think there was a relationship?

Awkward? Umm... yeah!

Awkward is getting caught sneaking out of her bed, and then being asked to come back to bed! Awkward is being asked are we dating, when you're thinking about your girlfriend who is wondering where the hell you are! Awkward is being told I love you, when you really want to tell her that your original plan was to break up with her before having sex, but failed to execute the plan! I mean these are the questions that most men have trouble giving the true answers to when being questioned at a ridiculous moment!

You see, that moment is so clear for us that we actually shock ourselves during that moment of deep thoughts. Everything seems so right and so wrong that even though we want to act-we can't! So we leave the confrontation for another day, another time, and another location; instead of dealing with the drama that we don't really need in our lives. However, every once in a while, we do realize that #4 is true, but only after the fact when it's too late! I guess that's one of the sweet secrets that some of us never tell our significant other even though we get married and tell everyone how faithful we've been. At the end of the day, #5 is the one that every female should hope that her man or soon to be man is thinking about during the 30-60 second after his final orgasm.

Social Vs Passive People

Social people

Let's start with the social butterflies of this world. They are easy approachable and always get all the smiles/chats and shouts when walking in the hallway. Go to any local club and you'll probably find a few.

The big benefit of this lifestyle is that you won't feel lonely very often. And that time flies because you share it with the people you love, or people that just happen to be around. And this boosts your health and lowers your stress levels. Plus you'd always have someone to talk to.

Disadvantages can be that you'd have less time practicing you hobbies and that the social web can outgrow you and become a mess to maintain.

Passive people

Often wrongly associated with nerds. These are the folks in the world that just prefer to be alone or are more focused on the task at hand, whether this is school or a personal project. They are generally less concerned with what other people think and they won't be the ones to make first contact - most of the time.

Benefit of this lifestyle is that it allows more time to be spending on hobbies or work. Also it helps sometimes to be able to make your own decisions. Go to the mall with a bunch of friends and you're likely to be stuck in a store you don't want to be in. Trust me, I've seen it on TV many times.

Disadvantages are that the inner person can feel lonely and unappreciated. The fear of dying alone can creep in and generally it isn't perfect for your health. According to research people like seeing other people and being around the mass lowers blood pressure and stress levels considerably.

Versus

Now let's compare both situations. I think honestly that both lifestyles are okay and that you should stick with whatever works for you. But I still want to point out that being social could help you in general. It's never bad to have a group of close friends around. They can surprise you in ways technical products never can. Because things you can buy inevitably lose their value. And a good friend never will.