If one of you had an affair, it is crucial that you do not make the same mistake again! You will definitely lose one another forever! A lot of couples have showed they can lead normal and happy lives after a devastating affair. They have to avoid obstacles and go through things that are in their way to achieve this. What can you do to save this relationship?
If there is cheating involved this means something was missing in the relationship. You both have to admit you were wrong. You have to see why your relationship went down this road.
What type of affair was it? Yes there is more than one type! Not just the physical one which is the most devastating of them all but the emotional one also. Whoever cheated could have done so by talking to another person intimately, or by phone or cyber sex.
Cyber sex is really now bad nowadays as you are online role playing and talking dirty. People do not think it is cheating when it is! It shows you do not care about your significant other at all! You are not serious about it either! And of all things trust is now broken!
Find out the reasons for the affair and see what is missing in the relationship. See what went wrong. Be honest to each other why this happened or is still happening. It may be difficult to hear the answers, but you must act like adults about and tackle this head on.
The answers might even surprise you! The person did not feel loved anymore, they did not feel respected, just needed more attention, or it was the thrill of sneaking around behind your back!
Go fix the things that caused the affair. Work slowly on gaining each others trust back. And most of all do this slowly and give it time to heal the relationship.
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